Why You Should Stop Playing the Victim

The Breakdown: Stop playing the victim and start taking control of your life.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of playing the victim. Blaming others for your problems, refusing to take responsibility for mistakes and failures, and feeling sorry for yourself can feel like the path of least resistance. Why do people play the victim? Well, it’s a complicated topic that we’ve all had some experience-either on a personal level or with someone close to us. And if you’re being honest about the topic at hand, then you have to admit to playing the victim at some point. But the truth is, no one likes a victim, and playing the victim can only lead to feelings of bitterness, resentment, and powerlessness. In this article, we’ll go over some reasons why you should stop playing the victim and start taking control of your life.

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What is a Victim?

Dictionary.com defines the word “victim” as…

a person who is deceived or cheated, as by their own emotions or ignorance, by the dishonesty of others, or by some impersonal agency:
a victim of misplaced confidence;

You can’t change the past so stop playing the victim.

Dwelling on past mistakes, wrongs, and hurts will only keep you stuck and unable to move forward to something greater. If you’ve found this blog, you’re clearly on a personal growth journey. And this would mean you’re most likely being honest about a personal inventory and reflecting on your past. You’ve undoubtedly admitted to playing the victim at some point in life. It’s important to acknowledge the past and learn from it. However, at some point, you have to let it go and focus on what you can do now and in the future. Stop playing the victim and focus on what you have to look forward to as result of being released from the shackles of victimhood. Don’t allow the past to define you or dictate your present and future choices. Let go and let God take over. It is truly a liberating experience.

Playing the victim can hinder your progress.

When you constantly blame others for your problems, you’re not taking ownership of your life. Playing the victim seems like a lifestyle more or less. From the time you wake up, to every conversation and thought that enters your mind, this clearly has to take away from productive activities. You’re essentially giving away your power and agency. Maybe this persona comes through in your interactions at work or in a romantic sense. What if this pushes those you come in contact with away? It’s impossible to make progress when you’re not willing to take responsibility for your life and choices. Furthermore, this could have long term consequences on your career and relationships. Stop playing the victim and see what opportunities arise for you!

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Stop playing the victim or become bitter and cold.

When you play the victim, you cultivate negativity and bitterness. Ask yourself about the people in your life. Surely, there’s someone who comes to mind that obsesses on something and rants and raves ad nauseam. Doesn’t it make you want to stay away from certain topics or avoid that person all together? Exactly. You become resentful of others and the world, and this can eventually lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness. You may find you don’t have too many friends and that people begin to avoid you. No one wants to be around a bitter and negative person, and this can further perpetuate the cycle of victimhood. Contrarily, if you stop playing the victim, you may see your circle of friends and associations expand.

You will see the world in a new light.

When you stop playing the victim, you’ll start to see the world from a new perspective and light. It’s almost as if you went to the optometrist and purchased a new set of glasses. We’ll call them “truth goggles” and they now enable anyone who wears them to see through BS. You’ll realize that you have more agency and control than you thought possible. Surely, we’ve all seen Braveheart. You’re now feeling like Mel Gibson with blue war paint on your face, riding around on your victim-free horse screaming “FREEEEEEDOM!!”. It feels good, doesn’t it? You’re now more open to new experiences and opportunities because you’re no longer blinded by the pity party you’ve been attending your whole life. And you’ll now start to attract more positive and uplifting people and situations into your life, simply because you decided to stop playing the victim.

Honestly, people don’t like a victim.

It’s a harsh truth, but it’s true, nonetheless. Maybe this is a little redundant-because we’ve already mentioned this. People are naturally attracted to positivity, strength, and resilience. Think about successful individuals that you look up to and idolize. Are they focused on how the world wronged them or on making the most of what life handed them? Essentially when a person decides to stop playing the victim, focus on others and productivity becomes possible. As previously mentioned, when you constantly portray yourself as a victim, people will start to distance themselves from you. This can further perpetuate feelings of isolation and negativity. Isolation and loneliness are what humanity most deeply fears, whether we know it or not. It is truly tragic.

The world will respect you more when you stop playing the victim.

When you stop playing the victim, the world will start to respect you more. People in all aspects of your life will start to gravitate and soon you’ll be seen as someone who takes ownership of your life and choices. We’ll call this adulting and now you’re “all grown up” and using those “truth goggles”, to more easily navigate the waters of life. You’ll be more likely to attract positive people and opportunities into your life. Think of the possibilities, simply because you decided to stop playing victim or blame others for the lot life handed you. And you’re now able to cultivate a sense of inner strength because you’re channeling all that former negative energy in a positive direction. The world will now see you as more resilient and want to know what you’re all about. This will serve you well in all areas of your life.

The Wrap Up: Why You Should Stop Playing the Victim

So, to wrap it all up, playing the victim may feel like the easy road, but it’s ultimately a sad, dead end. Do you want to live a fulfilling and meaningful life? Then it’s important to take ownership of your life and choices. Stop blaming others or taking things personally. People won’t want you around. We can’t get into all the details of why some play the victim. Tragedy happens and this is unfortunate. But as soon as you start being honest with yourself, the progress towards success can begin. Moreover, if you stop playing the victim, own your part, take responsibility for your actions, and cultivate a positive and resilient mindset, you’ll be on your way to creating the life you always dreamed of. Remember, you’re not a victim, you’re a survivor! And yell FREEEEDOM like William Wallace!

Thanks so much for stopping the blog and taking the time to read this carefully crafted article. All the ideas and concepts are personal to me. I have firsthand experience with playing the victim, as well as having dealt with many victims in life. I hope you’ll take away a few jewels of wisdom and apply them to your own growth. This article is meant to be informative and hopefully entertaining as well. However, if you have the need for any professional counseling or psychiatric help, please do so. The ideas here are not exhaustive by any means and are not meant to diagnose or treat underlying mental health problems. Again, thank you for stopping by my friends. Please share this and other articles on our blog page! Have a question? Message me.

Thoughts from The Author

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