Being A Late Bloomer

The Intro: Being a Late Bloomer

It’s all so surreal as I look back on it all and being a late bloomer. In one screenshot of the mind, I’m walking home from kindergarten. And in the next I recall awkwardly dancing with some girl with big bangs at a junior high social gathering. Sadly, next came the afterlife of high school, drinking excessively and wandering aimlessly for a purpose. I’m not sure what each person’s perception of life and their upbringing is. Surprisingly, some I speak with talk about vivid details as a toddler, running into mom or dad with scary experiences. Inevitably our development is bound to be affected by these experiences, contributing to being a late bloomer or preventing a “failure to launch” as they say.

 What is a “late bloomer you may ask? It’s not necessarily a bad thing.

 “someone who becomes successful, attractive, etc., at a later time in life than other people”

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How does one recall something light years away, to the mind anyway? In my opinion, comparison to others is a tricky thing that should be avoided in most situations. However, quite possibly you’ve heard the adage, “comparison is the killer of dreams”. At the same time comparison is necessary to gain knowledge of what is right and wrong or reality and skewed ideas. Furthermore, it’s important to gain an understanding of others life experiences so we can better understand our own. Is being a late bloomer a common experience? At some level I think everyone isn’t where society suggests they should be. But that’s okay. Stunted or delayed development should be looked at as steppingstones for growth rather than stumbling blocks or impediments.

Understanding the Past

What does all of this have to do with being a late bloomer? I’m not talking about Stepbrothers and living with your parents at 40. Actually, I often ask people about their memories of life and how much they recall. Personally, it’s difficult to remember much from the first 20 years. What’s the significance of all of this? I don’t really know. I’ve shared the downside to comparison, but if you’re unaware of what’s normal then how do you know what’s normal? Nevertheless, I’ve come to the conclusion that my lack of memories during childhood could quite possibly have played into my experience being a late bloomer. Am I unique in this personal phenomenon? I doubt it. Some unusual, personal circumstances have been the cause for much reflection on my part, as well as a desire to understand the past. Because forgetting the past is a dangerous matter.

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Is Being a Late Bloomer a Unique Experience?

One of the commonalities of human perception is that we think we’re uniquely special. I know I have at times and more at other times. Look around some time. Observe what you see. Undoubtedly, you’re sure to find crowds of lost individuals living up their heads, stuck in a mindset of “I’m unique” or “no one gets me”. Again, believe me when I say, I’ve been there often and for long periods of time. My early addiction recovery days were plagued with these obsessions. However, in being a late bloomer, I’ve moved somewhat beyond this. But this psyche inevitably attempts to sneak back in at times. All that is to say, you and I are not unique really. Though we may have different backgrounds and life experiences, how our brains process fear, uncertainty or memory recall, doesn’t differ all that much.

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We’re All On Our Own Path

So, how did I come to this conclusion regarding late bloomers and skewed perceptions? Well, I’ve been a behavioral health nurse for over a decade now. In a post-Covid world that broke many, the mental health problem has become worse in my experienced opinion. Furthermore, when you see the same thing over and over, it’s easy to see and recognize patterns in human behavior. Observing what not to do as well as how the individual landed in that spot is extremely valuable information to possess. Now, whether or not it’s applied is another topic of discussion. We’ll just say for the sake of establishing even a small amount of credibility, I’ve seen ample in the last decade to gain some clarity on human behaviors. Therefore, being a late bloomer has become of import as I’ve set out to understand my own life and journey to live life without regrets.

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It’s Okay Being a Late Bloomer

In conclusion, how did the Man upstairs place me in such a point of view and station in life? Well, being a late bloomer and a recovered alcoholic of 15 years is 100% part of my personal saga. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in life. However, I believe we’re all alike in our drive to progress and overcome what past may have stifled our growth. In fact, most days I still feel like a guy just taking his first step up a giant mountain, with a long journey ahead. It goes without saying that being a late bloomer has been a blessing but a curse, at the same time. I’ve had to learn much through trial, error, pain and suffering, just to acquire a small vision of what it’s like to be human. And positive mindset books can help traverse some of these experiences.

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Being a Late Bloomer: The Wrap Up

In conclusion, it’s through opposition, strive and struggles that we become stronger. If my life is challenging, uncertain or downright scary at the moment, I can look at it in two ways. One, I can develop a negative bitter view that’s clearly no good. Or secondly, I can look at the figurative mountain to climb as an opportunity for growth. If life is sunshine and rainbows all the time, then there wouldn’t be a necessity to change from being a late bloomer to a more mature, evolved creature. So, accept whatever flaws or shortcomings you feel you have. I believe God gave us weaknesses that we can one day become strong. If you’re like me a feel you’re a late bloomer; embrace it and begin your journey forward where you’re at. Focus on what you can today, have faith in your actions and tomorrow will sort itself out!

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